Declarative Language is a way of speaking, and Co-Regulation is a way of being.

After finishing 𝐷𝐿 𝐻𝑎𝑛𝑑𝑏𝑜𝑜𝑘, I realized how important it was to also teach others about co-regulation. In this excerpt from Chapter 1 of 𝐶𝑜-𝑅𝑒𝑔𝑢𝑙𝑎𝑡𝑖𝑜𝑛 𝐻𝑎𝑛𝑑𝑏𝑜𝑜𝑘, I explain why!

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Declarative Language is a way of speaking, and co-regulation is a way of being. They are inseparable partners that make each other better.

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Let me explain. Co-regulation lays the groundwork for successful communication. When two people with different learning styles are together, there is often a disconnect between what each person is attending to. We might be together physically, but we are thinking about different things.

Ch. 1 Why are we here (again)?

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Co-regulation establishes a shared focus of attention with our communication partner. In other words, we both know we are thinking about the same thing at the same time. As a result, it helps us feel certain of our connection in the moment.

Ch. 1 Why are we here (again)?

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Co-regulation grounds us in what we are doing together right now and lays the foundation for all that follows.

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And then we can get to what is important, with the help of Declarative Language.

-Authentic social connections

-Reciprocity

-Communication that is mutually meaningful

-And ultimately, an understanding of each other, our community, and our world.

Ch. 1 Why are we here (again)?

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